Love Is the State Of Life .....!

   In the world of this electronic media and social networking, we often listen the word "Love" all around us. Mostly the theme of each and every song that we listen is almost nothing but "Love". Every movie that we watch, demonstrate merely one thing, each upload on any social network will be liked and commented on if it's about "Love". But Have we ever  though of or meditated on the word "Love". Is it really something of so much importance that we say "LOVE IS LIFE". If so then what's love and Is the love same for everyone ……..?

To illustrate the above mentioned thoughts, I will say;

                       It depends. There can be as many loves as there are people. Love is a hierarchy, from lowest rung to the highest, from sex to super consciousness. There are many layers, many planes of love. It all depends on you. If you are existing on the lowest rung, will will have totally different idea of love than the person who is existing on the highest rung.

Shimon Peres (President of Israel) will have one idea of love, Mother Tressa may have another; and they will be diametrically opposite, because they are at two extremes.

                     At the lowest, Love is a kind of politics, power politics. Wherever love is contaminated by the idea of domination, it's politics. Whether you call it politics or not is not the question, it is political. And millions of people never know anything about love except this politics _ the politics that exist between lovers, husbands and wives, boy friends and girl friends. Though it must never be so if you are at the highest rung but it is politics, the whole thing is political, you want to dominate the other. And that can not be the true essence of love therefore; I call it politics.

Unfortunately you enjoy domination, and love is nothing but politics, sugar coated, a bitter pill sugar coated. You talk about love but the deep desire is to exploit the other. And I am not saying that you are doing it deliberately --- no rather it is almost unconscious, you can't do it deliberately; but the rung in which you are; I mean the lowest one;  full of ego;  makes you do this politics unconsciously.

Hence so much jealousy and so much possessiveness become a part, an intrinsic part, of your love. That's why today love is creating more misery than joy. (Think of it). 99% of it is bitter because we have made it so much politics and the remaining 1% is sugar that we have coated on top of it. And sooner or later that sugar disappears.

When you are in the beginning of a love affair, those honeymoon days, you taste something so sweet. Soon that sugar wears off, and the realities start appearing in stark nakedness of being, innersole and the whole thing becomes ugly.

Millions of people have decided not to love human beings any more. And they say that it's far more better to love a dog, a cat, a parrot, even it's better to love a car which is non living thing --- because you can dominate them well, and in such love the other (dog, cat and car etc) will never even tries to dominate you. Because it's simple not as complex-ed as with human beings so they have decided to love things rather human beings.

People are falling in love with horses, dogs, animals, machines, things. Why? Because to be in love with human beings has become an utter hell, a continuous conflict…. Nagging, always at each others throats.

This is the lowest form of Love which I call politics. Nothing is wrong in it if you want to use it as a step for going towards highest form of love but just as a step, never being stuck with it for all your life. But unfortunately most of the people always stuck on this lowest step all their lives unless their lives are at end.

Only at the highest peak, when love is not a relationship any more, when love becomes state of being, at it's lowest, love is nothing but power politics a political relationship.. At it's highest, love is a religious state of consciousness.

At the highest rung the love demands nothing in return rather the sheer joy of it is giving love and the to be thankful to the other for acceptance of it but never ask for return. It's seems so beautiful but the only thing which makes difference between the highest and the lowest. The only obstacle from going from lowest to highest is just and just "Ego".

To understand the real essence of love and it's beauty one has to think of it as a state of being means you don't love this or that person, you simply love because when you are free of politics and ego you will have thelove as state of being, and in the words of Mansoor AlHaajj "You will become Love".  Then rather saying that you love someone you will feel that you are love, your very being will turn to love, and the beauty of it will be that you will never love more or less nor will you discriminate while loving one person or another. You will simply be the love. So whosoever is capable of drinking the intoxication of your love, you are available and you are available unconditionally.

Your love will be as sun light always same neither more nor less rather it will depend on the people who are observing that light if they have great eye sight to see it, they will get all of it, if they have color blindness they will get some of it and if someone is blind in love he/she may not get anything. But your love is your being and available unconditionally to everyone without asking them for any return, which is the biggest joy of it.

Everybody has their own idea of love. And only when you come to the state where all ideas about love have disappeared, where love is no more an idea but simply your being, then only you will know it's freedom. Then love is nothing but ultimate truth.

                               But the real and highest rung of love needs great courage for the simple reason that the basic requirement of love is to drop the "Ego". And man is very afraid of dropping the ego. It seems almost like committing suicide. It only seems so because we don't know anything other than the ego.

Ego has become our only identity, and to drop it certainly means you are dropping you individuality. It is not true ___ in fact, just the opposite is the truth. Unless you drop the ego, you can not know your real individuality. The ego is the pretender, something false, pseudo, invented. The moment it is dropped, only then you can see the real. Otherwise, the unreal hides the real. The unreal hides the real like clouds hiding the sun. if your love is sun shine the ego will work as dark cloud which will stop the shinning light to reach to the people.

                                Love requires a dropping of ego. Hence, love can become the door to divine. You may start loving a person but you will end up loving impersonal. The person becomes just a window __ open towards the infinite  sky. But one has to be absolutely clear that the ego will have to be sacrificed.

People hanker for love, but at the same time they cling to their ego. Hence, love never becomes reality. They come and go without tasting the nectar of love. And unless you experience love, you have not experienced life at all and you remain missing the point.

 

                                                                                   Written by: Manzoor A. Khan

Monday, September 12, 2011