In the world of this electronic media and social networking, we often listen the word "Love" all around us. Mostly the theme of each and every song that we listen is almost nothing but "Love". Every movie that we watch, demonstrate merely one thing, each upload on any social network will be liked and commented on if it's about "Love". But Have we ever though of or meditated on the word "Love". Is it really something of so much importance that we say "LOVE IS LIFE". If so then what's love and Is the love same for everyone ……..?
To illustrate the
above mentioned thoughts, I will say;
It depends. There
can be as many loves as there are people. Love is a hierarchy, from
lowest rung
to the highest, from sex to super consciousness. There are many layers,
many planes of love. It all depends on you. If you are existing on the
lowest rung, will
will have totally different idea of love than the person who is existing
on the
highest rung.
Shimon Peres
(President of Israel) will have one idea of love, Mother Tressa may have
another; and they will be diametrically opposite, because they are at two
extremes.
At the lowest, Love
is a kind of politics, power politics. Wherever love is contaminated by the
idea of domination, it's politics. Whether you call it politics or not is not
the question, it is political. And millions of people never know anything about
love except this politics _ the politics that exist between lovers, husbands
and wives, boy friends and girl friends. Though it must never be so if you are
at the highest rung but it is politics, the whole thing is political, you want
to dominate the other. And that can not be the true essence of love therefore;
I call it politics.
Unfortunately you
enjoy domination, and love is nothing but politics, sugar coated, a bitter pill
sugar coated. You talk about love but the deep desire is to exploit the other.
And I am not saying that you are doing it deliberately --- no rather it is almost
unconscious, you can't do it deliberately; but the rung in which you are; I
mean the lowest one; full of ego; makes you do this politics unconsciously.
Hence so much
jealousy and so much possessiveness become a part, an intrinsic part, of your
love. That's why today love is creating more misery than joy. (Think of it).
99% of it is bitter because we have made it so much politics and the remaining
1% is sugar that we have coated on top of it. And sooner or later that sugar
disappears.
When you are in the
beginning of a love affair, those honeymoon days, you taste something so sweet.
Soon that sugar wears off, and the realities start appearing in stark nakedness
of being, innersole and the whole thing becomes ugly.
Millions of people
have decided not to love human beings any more. And they say that it's far more
better to love a dog, a cat, a parrot, even it's better to love a car which is
non living thing --- because you can dominate them well, and in such love the
other (dog, cat and car etc) will never even tries to dominate you. Because
it's simple not as complex-ed as with human beings so they have decided to love
things rather human beings.
People are falling
in love with horses, dogs, animals, machines, things. Why? Because to be in
love with human beings has become an utter hell, a continuous conflict….
Nagging, always at each others throats.
This is the lowest
form of Love which I call politics. Nothing is wrong in it if you want to use
it as a step for going towards highest form of love but just as a step, never
being stuck with it for all your life. But unfortunately most of the people always
stuck on this lowest step all their lives unless their lives are at end.
Only at the highest
peak, when love is not a relationship any more, when love becomes state of
being, at it's lowest, love is nothing but power politics a political
relationship.. At it's highest, love is a religious state of consciousness.
At the highest rung
the love demands nothing in return rather the sheer joy of it is giving love and
the to be thankful to the other for acceptance of it but never ask for return.
It's seems so beautiful but the only thing which makes difference between the
highest and the lowest. The only obstacle from going from lowest to highest is
just and just "Ego".
To understand the
real essence of love and it's beauty one has to think of it as a state of being
means you don't love this or that person, you simply love because when you are
free of politics and ego you will have thelove as state of being, and in the words
of Mansoor AlHaajj "You will become Love". Then rather saying that you love someone you
will feel that you are love, your very being will turn to love, and the beauty
of it will be that you will never love more or less nor will you discriminate
while loving one person or another. You will simply be the love. So whosoever
is capable of drinking the intoxication of your love, you are available and you
are available unconditionally.
Everybody has their
own idea of love. And only when you come to the state where all ideas about
love have disappeared, where love is no more an idea but simply your being,
then only you will know it's freedom. Then love is nothing but ultimate truth.
But the real and
highest rung of love needs great courage for the simple reason that the basic
requirement of love is to drop the "Ego". And man is very afraid of
dropping the ego. It seems almost like committing suicide. It only seems so
because we don't know anything other than the ego.
Ego has
become our
only identity, and to drop it certainly means you are dropping you
individuality. It is not true ___ in fact, just the opposite is the
truth.
Unless you drop the ego, you can not know your real individuality. The
ego is the pretender, something false, pseudo, invented. The moment it
is dropped, only
then you can see the real. Otherwise, the unreal hides the real. The
unreal
hides the real like clouds hiding the sun. if your love is sun shine the
ego
will work as dark cloud which will stop the shinning light to reach to
the
people.
Love requires a
dropping of ego. Hence, love can become the door to divine. You may start
loving a person but you will end up loving impersonal. The person becomes just
a window __ open towards the infinite
sky. But one has to be absolutely clear that the ego will have to be
sacrificed.
Written by: Manzoor A. Khan
Monday,
September 12, 2011
